38 years of marriage is a great feat nowadays. Throw mental
illness into your family dynamic and getting married at a young age and
statistics say we were doomed from the start. We can’t take credit for our
success in staying together. But we can give you a few pointers whether you
have mental illness in your family or not. It’s all stuff you know and have
heard before, but maybe has a slightly different twist on it or you haven’t
thought about working on your marriage in a while.
Here goes it:
1. When it’s tough always see and
remember the best version of your spouse. Remember the good stuff instead of
the bad.
2. When it looks like your unappreciated and forgotten go the extra mile
to do something (anything) for your spouse. Write them a love note, send them
an “I love you” text, pick up some flowers, make or buy a favorite dessert, or
give them a hug just because. Do this in good times and in bad and don’t expect
them to reciprocate or even receive this gesture very well.
3. Always pray with and
for your spouse. (If your spouse doesn’t want to pray with you, you can still
pray for them.)
4. Stay in God’s word every day. Even if it’s one verse.
5. Never
gossip about your spouse. (This is especially hard for the ladies.) Better yet,
brag about them.
6. Seek professional help if you harbor anger, resentment, or have
unresolved conflict. Encourage your spouse to do the same if they are open to
it.
7. Know their love language and apply it to your relationship with them.
8. Date
your spouse.
9. If you don’t have shared interests find them. It could be a hobby,
volunteering, or even working on a house project together.
10. Lastly, let Christ
permeate every area of your life. That’s the best way to keep your marriage in
the wedded bliss category.
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